Rarely do I write a post which consists primarily of a link.

This is such a post.

My wife and I listened today to a talk by Lorie Kaufman-Rees. She is the Support and Recovery Pastor at Vineyard Columbus, and a licensed counselor.

Rees spoke about abuse issues in families, using the Old Testament story of Amnon and Tamar in 2 Samuel 13. In her talk, she explains the five dynamics of families who wound, and the three ways that Jesus can heal those wounds.

While much of Rees’s message relates to sexual abuse within families, the principles are transferable to any type of abuse: physical, sexual, spiritual, or emotional.

I have found in my own experience that leaders who disrespect spiritual boundaries often crash with impunity through other boundaries. There is a high correlation between spiritual abuse and sexual abuse.

Rees’s talk lasts 44-minutes. It is well worth your time. I was not the only one who had to dab my eyes after it finished. If you are a victim of spiritual or sexual abuse, this message will speak to you.

Here’s the link: http://www.vineyardcolumbus.org/watch-listen/messages/unspeakable-hurt/

Note: If you listen to this message and find that it brings up a whole host of issues, please refer to my “Resources” page for links to licensed Christian counselors. Or contact the good people at Hope for the Heart here. And always remember: You can’t heal what you can’t feel.